How do you know what to do?

Here we go again. My son moved home Tuesday night after being asked to leave my niece’s apartment. He isn’t working and doesn’t have the rent money. He is very low at this point and needs medical (psych) assistance. However, he has not health insurance at this time. He has (I should say that we have) filled out paperwork for state insurance. In MA it is illegal not to have health insurance and the state offers health insurance to the unemployed and folks without it on a sliding scale basis.

He has been home for two days and already both my husband and are so upset with him that it is difficult to get any work done and think of something other than what to do about him. My husband told me today that we really need to get some outside assistance to deal with him.

I spent the day home with him yesterday and he had a melt down. His girlfriend broke up with him, he has no job, no prospects for work and his car is in the shop. He talks about how no one cares about him and he tells me that he thinks about killing himself. He spent most of the day yesterday crying

The car is the straw that broke the camels back so to speak. My son took the car to a place that told him it would cost almost $700 to fix the problem. Our mechanic told us that it shouldn’t cost that much so he came to the city and towed the car to the small town where we live. He called my husband this morning to tell him that the only way the car could have broken the way it did was if the car was being abused. He said that someone would have to be going about 80MPH and hit something hard for that to happen. HE also said that with all the stuff in the car he had a hard time towing it and it was a pig sty. Then to top it all off, he (the mechanic who we actually bought the car from) asked my husband why we never got the car inspection sticker? Now that is a good question.. We gave our son the money to get the inspection sticker and he told us that he did.

He has been home for two days and I am already at a loss about what to do. I even made a call to the Army recruiter today but they will not take him without a high school diploma. He has a GED. He would also have to agree to go and go through a battery of tests to see if he was emotionally stable enough to go. He isn’t. So where to go from here.

I’m sure that other people have similar problems with 19 year old sons. I know that we can’t be the only ones struggling with these issues. Or are we?

What do you do with a mentally unstable 19 year old that absolutely can not take care of himself? He can’t hold a job and he definitely has a problem with reality and telling the truth. I swear he believes some of the lies he tells us.